Have you ever prepared yourself for a conversation you expected would be emotionally upsetting? When I did this a few days ago I took great care deciding what I wanted to say and took the time I would need to be able to speak the words calmly so the other party would receive a message that sounded confident and sure. What I said buried any sign of emotion and after I sent the message, it felt wrong.
I think I thought I was protecting myself and the other person, but I did us both a disservice. When I hid my emotions and the hurt, I also hid the rest of myself. I didn’t allow myself to be truly seen or heard and I didn’t allow the other party to see the impact they’ve had on my life. The message was perfectly worded, but I had removed myself. When there is no joy, anger, happiness or hurt, there is no humanness and no connection. The message without emotion served no one.