Sometimes the light bulb comes on and suddenly I see something I needed to see differently. When the long term relationship I was in ended by cheating, I dove into reading everything I could find about men; what they want, how they think, communication styles and how to communicate effectively. The truth of why I did this is I thought I had done something wrong. I thought the end of the relationship and the cheating was my fault and I wanted to be better equipped going forward.
What I’ve learned has been interesting and helpful but a few days ago I saw a glaring omission. My reading has focused primarily on men and I’ve focused very little on myself. I haven’t considered more than briefly what I want, what I need, what I’m willing to accept or how to love myself more. I failed to include myself in the equation.